Human being is the most complicated things in the world. In one single individual, there are a lot of thinking process, perceiving what happened in surrounding, deciding on things, and many other activities. This most beautiful and complicated human being, somehow somewhat in certain circumstances appears as a dumb-ass as well. That’s when they are faced with: relationship. Not only the love relationship things, I mean every single relationship: family, work, friends, lovers, etc. This smart human being suddenly being dumb, being over-think, yet never get the solution of a problem. Cracking up, the main problem here is simple, as simple as remembering the rules of:
Relationship is always a (minimal) two persons matters.
Working life has somehow taught me a lot. It bring out the best and the worst of myself. I get to know myself even better here. I know I would prefer to be treated in which way, I understand that I work in certain ways. However, nobody’s the same. No matter, you said you have a similar behavior to one self, you will always have that different small details. How do we overcome this differences? No.. let’s step back a little bit, how do we know about this differences at first place? We TALK. We DISCUSS. And of course we SOLVE. There is no point of you know, you talk about it, you know there is a problem, yet you leave it as if there’s nothing you could do to solve it.
I was having a very hard time with working in the past 3 months. It all started from my probation, preparing the material is a pain. As I have to go through all of this together with doing some other working presentation. It didn’t stop there, as soon as it is finished, there is still a lot of stuff going on afterward. I can bear those workload really well, unfortunately, because every work is related to your superior or your surrounding, the workload became “complicated”.
The workload seemed to be more difficult, especially when I thought that my superior was not helping at all. I thought she was a pain, she ordered around, she put on a lot of pressure and workload. Fair judgement, I couldn’t blame solely everything to her as well, she also had her own workload, perhaps even more. But than, I am still a human anyway, I will stretch until a point where the fatigue is there; and that’s when everything is broke up. You started to whine, and blame everything on somebody else. I stopped performing (in terms of work), and deeply, I realized that eventually she will feel it as well. Thinking of that, it would be no fair for her to get an under-performed employee, and in the other hand, it would be also not fair for me because I am slowly sinking my own ship. I believe in every single problem in this world, there will be a true match of solution. And for that, I believe that there is only one way to solve this awkwardness: COMMUNICATE – TALK.
Oh yes, this talking thing isn’t as easy as it said. It took all your guts to talk (or for some people it might sound like you’re whining over your boss). It took every last breath you have to try on speaking up what’s the matter of yourself. It took all your brain capacity to justify and not just blaming, but also re-look on what’s wrong with yourself. It took the most courageous part of yourself to also admit that you’re wrong in some part in the conversation as well. But in the end, when we can overcome this barrier, it will be felt really great. Because we have tried our best to solve a problem!
I just did the talking today, if felt great. Fortunate for me, she is a very open-minded person who can received the critics and talks well. If not, I might be not ending up talking to her as well! And remain grumpy all the time. I always remind myself, my sister, and others: whenever you have a problem with somebody else, talk through it, because it is never just be about you alone. It’s always about you and somebody else who has (definitely) different way in every aspects. And that’s how you solved problem.